Reader's Question #1 Dear Jeff:
I have only had two boyfriends, so I am not very experienced with relationships. I've been with my current boyfriend for about four months now and have begun to feel that I don't see this relationship going anywhere. The problem is that he's a very nice guy and I know that we could be friends, but sometimes his niceness just bugs me. My friends are all telling me that I should wait and see how I feel in a couple months, but I feel like I'm leading him on because I know I don't feel as strongly as he does. Is this a normal thing for me to be feeling?
Guess I Need A Bad Boy
Jeff's Answer Dear Guess I need a Bad Boy,
If you don’t have “feelings” for the guy, don’t lead the guy along. It would be better to dump him now then have him go psycho later on. Just don’t give the poor bastard the whole “Let’s be friends” line. It just will never happen. He will still have feelings for you no matter what. So you might as well just cut your losses. Reader's Question #2 Dear Jeff:
Sometimes when I smoke my hookah, the smoke tastes like ashes. I’m not really sure what I’m doing wrong. I always make sure to clean my hookah after each time I smoke. Do you have any recommendations?
Bad Taste in My Mouth Jeff's Answer Dear Bad Taste in my mouth,
It could be a couple of things. 1You could be burning the tobacco or you may need to change out some parts of the hookah. Solution: Too much charcoal or packing the tobacco too high in you bowl. You may also want to change out the hose or depending on how long you have had the hookah, it may be time to upgrade to a new hookah Reader's Question #3 Dear Jeff:
There’s this chic I work with and she’s hot and has a very nice personality. We’ve been flirting back and forth for a while and I’m kind of feeling her. The only problem is she’s taken; in fact she has a live in boyfriend. However, I think she is starting to have feelings for me too, because she told me she wanted to stop playing around like we do. Recently, however, she moved out of her boyfriend’s place and went to stay with her mom. Whenever I see her we speak to each other, but she hasn’t mentioned anything that would indicate she’s trying to be with me; but, I know I could make her laugh and make her happy. I don't know if I should try and talk to her, or if I should give her space…how long should you wait after a girl goes through a break up before she’s fair game?
Trying Not To Be A Creep Jeff's Answer Dear Trying Not To Be A Creep,
It all depends on her reasoning for breaking up. If she broke up with him because she doesn’t have “feelings” for him anymore then go for it. But if it is something along the lines of him cheating on her or abusing her, then just have some patience. If you want to be a rebound guy and see how high the ball will bounce, then go right ahead. However, if you’re touchy feely guy looking for a “long term” relationship then give it a little time before you make your move. Be there as a friend for now and be supportive, but don’t hang around so much that she gets used to you and you become her “brother” cause incest isn’t cool. Reader's Question #4 Dear Jeff:
I just recently switched to natural charcoal. I wanted to see how it would affect my smoking experience. I have a couple of friends who swear by it, but unfortunately my experience has been quite different. I can’t seem to keep the charcoal lit. I light it with my electric stove, and by the time I’ve taken a few puffs, the charcoal is already dead. Is it something that I’m doing, or not doing? Normally I would just throw the coals away and get the ones that I like, however because my friends swore by this natural charcoal I went and bought a big bag. I would appreciate any suggestion that could make this pain in my head, that’s swiftly becoming a pain in my rear, go away.
Distressed Smoker Jeff's Answer Dear Distressed Smoker,
When using the natural charcoal you need to make sure the coals are fully lit. If not, they will go out on you. When lighting the charcoal, place them on a gas or electric stove top (in a well ventilated area) and wait till the coals are red or covered in ash. After they are lit, group the coals together on the stove top or if you have a charcoal basket place the coals together on the basket. Wait a few minutes to make sure that all parts of the coal is covered in ash. To avoid applying too much heat in one part of the bowl it is helpful to break up any large charcoal pieces. This can be done by placing the coals back onto the stove top and lightly hitting them with your charcoal tongs until they crack.
Following these simple guidelines should give you the best smoking experience out there. |
